Six Steps Toward Joy:
4. Choose Your
Response:
ACT rather than
REACT. We can change how we feel in any moment by changing
our judgments of a situation. Take time to re-perceive
circumstances of upset and reframe our judgments in search
of the hidden gifts and potentials. In any moment we can
CHOOSE how we will respond. How can I reframe this, and
what is the best way to respond for joy?
Six Steps Toward Joy With Others: 4.
Be Effective:
Having to be “right” implies making others “wrong” and sets
the stage for conflict. Is being “right” more important than
creating desired outcomes? Being EFFECTIVE is finding
win-win solutions, respecting the rights of all to be
exactly who and how they are, even if you disagree. If you
do not respect each others’ boundaries and own your own
stuff, you will be unable to create mutuality or effective
solutions. If others need to make you wrong, recognize the
ego game and refrain from engaging. You do not have to
justify your existence to others and they do not have to
justify their existence to you. Am I trying to make
someone wrong? Is someone trying to make me wrong? Are we
respecting each other’s boundaries and right to be? Can I
engage this with effective action?
(Taken from Angelic Realities handbook,
pages 78-80. ©) |